John, I totally agree with the dynamic feel of acoustic drums. There is nothing like it, but you or I will be much more sensitive to this as musicians, and most norms won't hear the difference as they have another shot and beer (joke).
However I have a set of V-Drums that sound great, I use them for recording sometimes.
The main funciton of the V-Drums for me is so I can have the band over, and do headphone rehearsal. The loudest thing in the room are the vocals.
Becuase of this, and the COPS FINALLY stopped visiting to say hi, and snarl!
I would not use them live however, 'cept maybe for some spacy jam when unconventional sounds are needed.
To address the equipment lugging issue, I bought two Bose PS-1's with bass cabs for the band, and we have not used anything else since (except the bass player, 4x18 B-52 folded horn subs...but he gets to move all those himself hahaha). They solved feedback problems, muffly vocals, and project the Further so transparently it's well, amazing (I no longer use a guitar amp). R*ck Tur**er (I hope that is enough) compared them to an effeciently packaged wall of sound. I mean,my kid unloaded the PA and set it all up! That's how easy they are to use.