There are self-absorbed, needy, whiners who will eagerly suck up all of your time and resources who don't work, and there are self-absorbed, needy, whiners who will eagerly suck up all of your time and resources who do work. I generally try to avoid both types, but also recognize that sometimes I am one also. Life is a big circle in many ways.
Gregory, sorry for the loss of your Mother. Having been the one who took over and got the needed things done after her passing, you should note that your character has been tested and has passed with flying colors at a time of great anguish. And as Rami posted, this probably has helped you sort out who your true friends are..
I find my life is too short to waste time on people I don't really want to be with. As it is, there isn't nearly enough time to spend with the people I want to spend it with.
John (working - too much for too little)