For a long time now, I have desisted on relying on my stage sound to have any idea of the outside sound. Instead, I try to design any kind of rig (even if it is only a simple DI box, or a complex rack setup), so I can have an idea of the out sound FIRST (be it through the use of a long cable, a wireless transmitter, or -the least of the cases- a trustworthy sound engineer), and then have a parallel stage setup I could tweak knowing it will have NO effect on the outside sound whatsoever. Not the best scenario, I suppose, but the bigger the stage, the less comfortable it gets dealing with it (specially if there is rented backline amplification where you'll never know what' really going to show up). For smaller venues, the long cable method during soundcheck always works, and since the smallest venues (cafe, club, bars and the like) tend to repeat dates around here, once you get it working on the first date, it usually doesn't need much tweaking on subsequent dates (Still, on those small venues, whenever possible, I try to get my sound from the PA and use whichever amp I may bring as a reinforcement or stage fill). Therefore, most of my gigging rigs do have some sort of XLR out...