It's all about personal preference, I mean, the people we have installed SS frets for love them - it's just what they needed. Likewise on the EVO - it really looks pretty with brass or goldplated hardware too!
I echo Greg's lament on working with them, it's why we charge a bit extry.
Some people wear out frets faster than others, and it's not about how much time they play. It's combination of the strings and technique. Plus lots of string wear can happen in transit. If you drive around alot, best to put a protective slip sheet under the strings so the case isn't letting the strings press hard on the frets and chew away at them with it vibrates on the road.