Virus hits home

[StefanieJones]

So I was going to post this in the John Prine thread but thought against it.

The father of the guitar player in my band passed from covid last weekend. He wound up on a ventilator and passed a couple of days later. The guitar (chris) is blaming himself for not doing more to protect his dad. I don't know. I guess maybe that's how some people grieve. But, he's not taking it well. Me, I'm sad because his dad was a genuinely nice guy. He always had  smile and treated everyone well.

Hopefully this threat passes soon. And I hope to never hear of it again.

Feel free to hijack...

[sonicus]

I am so sorry for this loss and  I send my respect and condolences .

[StefanieJones]

I guess there's always firsts in life. This is the first time I've known someone personally that's succumbed to something like this.  It  just  hits home. I suppose there's no other way to put it.

Edit: I'm thankful it wasn't me.

And.. I should add, it appears that he got it from one of the grandkids of Chris' brother who came home from running around with friends. The house was sick, but of the 6 people who lived there... 

[mica]

Yeah, feelings are a real roller coaster when something is intellectually abstract and then suddenly emotionally very real. I'm sorry for Chris' and your loss.

[StephenR]

So sorry to hear this sad news, condolences to Chris, his family and friends. When my mom died of cancer in 1995 I agonized at first over what I could have done to help her live longer. Kept replaying the sequence of events over and over in my mind looking for something I could have done differently. I think that is a common reaction, it was a bad head-space to be in but eventually I came around to accept the reality of the situation and stopped looking for a way to blame myself. Chris is lucky to have friends like you for the emotional support he needs now.

One reason we need to stay safe and healthy is to be able to support and help those who are not so lucky... everyone please be careful!

[StefanieJones]

One reason we need to stay safe and healthy is to be able to support and help those who are not so lucky... everyone please be careful!

So very true!

[edwardofhuncote]

So sorry Stefanie. 

[David Houck]

Holding you in my heart, Stefanie.

[pauldo]

Mica's words ring true... when a face is put to a tragedy everything changes.

This is all new, and unknown's can be frightening.

Stefanie - strength to you, also allow yourself to be weak, to mourn and to work through this. 
{{{hugs}}}


Paul (who is striving to stay in the presence of now,  otherwise fear creeps in)

[lbpesq]

My condolences, Stefanie.  I'm afraid we are in for some sad times.  It is a small consolation that difficult times bring us closer together (spiritually, not physically, yet).

Bill, tgo

[rv_bass]

Stephanie, condolences to you and Chris, very difficult times.

[hankster]

This is so sad. It’s a terrible disease.

[StefanieJones]

Thanks for the kind words everyone. It means a lot to me. All that was said resonates strongly right now.  I truly appreciate this family here.

[edwin]

A close family friend and my sister's father in law passed this week. They were older and had significant ongoing health problems, but still hard to take. And then several people from my Colorado music community have left us. It's getting really close to home.

Hoping everyone here and their families stay healthy and safe.

[StephenR]

Sorry to hear about your losses Edwin.

We got word yesterday evening that the stepfather of one of our best friend's passed away in NY yesterday after contracting the virus.  He was 92, in poor health, suffering from dementia and had been in a nursing home for weeks after a fall at home. He lived a good long and successful life but died alone since his wife has not been allowed to see him the entire time he has been in the nursing home. She is all alone and must be freaking out trying to deal with the reality of this while sheltering in place. Unfortunately it is not safe for her daughter to fly to NY to be with her. Such a sad situation.

My wife and I continue to count our blessings at this difficult point in time knowing that for so many the experience has been the polar-opposite of ours. Everyone, please do whatever you can to stay safe!