Gary, my wife and I got married in Alaska two years ago and later had a wedding party for all of our friends here in Oakland. I found the list of potential hotels in the area we sent to our guests. Hope it is helps narrow your search and look forward to meeting you at the gathering! I left in the references to Leona Lodge since if you stay in Oakland you will be driving past there on the way over the hills to the gathering. Lodge is located at the base of the Oakland hills just off HWY 13. It should take you about another 15 minutes or so to get to the gathering from that area of HWY 13.
EXECUTIVE INN & SUITES, OAKLAND
Very good quality; highish price; location pleasant (ask for room facing the water); 10-minute drive to Leona Lodge, but not convenient to anything else, especially without a car.
http://executiveinnoakland.com/WATERFRONT HOTEL, JACK LONDON SQUARE, OAKLAND
Very good quality; walkable to shops and restaurants in Jack London Square, downtown Oakland, and Oakland Chinatown; ferry terminal for travel to San Francisco is one block away; ask for room facing the water to avoid possible train noise from nearby Amtrak station; 15-minute drive to Leona Lodge.
http://www.jdvhotels.com/hotels/california/san-francisco-hotels/waterfront- hotel/
AIRPORT HILTON, OAKLAND
Best price; quality respectable (typical airport business hotel); location not convenient to anywhere but Oakland Airport; walkable to fast food restaurants; 5 minutes from Coliseum BART station, where you can park for $1.00 and travel by train to San Francisco; 10-minute drive to Leona Lodge.
http://www3.hilton.com/en/hotels/california/hilton-oakland-airport-OAKHIHH/index.htmlOAKLAND MARRIOTT CITY CENTER, OAKLAND
Good quality; only paid parking nearby, but hotel offers parking-included room options; ask for a room that doesn’t face Broadway; 2 blocks from Oakland Chinatown; walking distance to shops, restaurants and 12th Street BART for travel to San Francisco; 15-minute drive to Leona Lodge.
http://www.marriott.com/hotels/travel/oakdt-oakland-marriott-city-center/COURTYARD BY MARRIOTT, EMERYVILLE
Good quality; high price; walking distance to Emeryville shops and restaurants; good location for travel to San Francisco via free shuttle to MacArthur BART station; possible noise from trains at nearby Amtrak station; 15-minute drive to Leona Lodge.
http://www.marriott.com/hotels/travel/oakmv-courtyard-oakland-emeryville/