Deadhead? Oh, yeah - though not what you'd call hardcore (I never drove more than 700 miles for a show. ) And Alan, the first instrument I ever bought was a Winston P-bass copy ($75 w/a Paris combo amp.) To mention Dave Matthews in an explaination of why you're not a Deadhead is akin to my saying I really don't get the fuss about Alembic, and I didn't get the Winston, either. The difference is that great.
When Garcia died, Dylan said There are a lot of spaces between Buddy Holly and the Carter Family and, say, Ornette Coleman. Somehow he managed to fill them all. That pretty much extrapolates to the band as a whole, and that's what it was about for me - what Mickey Hart called using a rock lexicon with a jazz syntax. But, ulitmately it's like the Harley t-shirt says - If I need to explain it....... me, I got it, and one of the great joys of my life is that I was able to be present for the creation of that magic on multiple occasions.
Peter