Need Advice from Dr. Phil- lesh that is

[gtrguy]

I think you gotta BS em into not messing with you!! Just tell them you attended Berekly and also have a black belt and hopefully they will pick on the horn players instead. It's a prison yard mentality out there. Tattoos might help (sp?). Owning the PA will denfinatly help, and sleeping with the lead singer will help a lot (until you have a fight).
 
I have heard most groups are actually run by one or two people who really call the shots. Maybe a singer and a drummer or... It might even take a while to find out who really runs the show. If you passed the audition it may not even be about your playing at all. Could be something way out in left field. Maybe a mid-life thing the singer is having. If music is in your blood it won't quit calling to you. You might try creating your own band. Remember, nothing lasts forever, Even the Beatles broke up while making tons of money and having unheard of success.  
 
I kind of see bands as a form of serial monagamy with an occasional affair thrown in for good measure. But then I always was a self-serving no good bum anyway.
 
Best of luck to you!
Dave

[andbassforall]

I think its just as hard and almost takes as much discrimination to find  musical soulmates as it does the romantic type.  A lot of risk taking, time wasting, and frustration getting to that place its natural and easy.  I play in a lot of groups. Many of which I'm of course playing not always what I choose.  But I enjoy the company and challenge, the lessons learned as long as I have a project to call my own where I can play out every idea. You'll have to be responsible for your own creative outlet. On those gigs where they turn their heads when u play a chord or above the 5th position, attitude and outlook is everything. I'd rather play e en if its not ideal.    Best of luck to you. I'm sure you'll keep playing. We won't let u quit!

[flaxattack]

i ran this ad in craiglist
Experienced bass player looking to form dead based/jam/cover band. I am looking for talented musicians who have played with other people/bands and not along with a cd.  
The deal is about having a good time together, letting people express their musical abilities, going with the flow and taking it out on gigs.  
Not looking for jerry clones or bob wannabees etc.  My style is a mix of influences and I play out of the pocket sometimes and expect the drummer(s) to be able to hold down a beat and also have the ability to ?play? their instrument.  If you like the dead you?ll know what I mean. Looking for guitars, keys, sax, and vocals.  Send clips if you have some.

[artswork99]

That says it all IMO... Good luck with the search for musical companions.
 
(Message edited by artswork99 on July 08, 2009)