I can't find a band either. I thought I had (excellent drummer, guitar and harp, willing to let things go where they want to musically, etcetera..) but the singer turned out to be a piece of work and I left when he fired the drummer for no valid reason the night before a gig..
Now I play with a good blues band when their real bass player (my brother) is unable to. It's a great band and they let me stretch out quite a bit, but when it comes down to it I'm still just subbing.
I also get to play a few times a year with a horn band in Evansville, and that gig is a blast and a lot of work. They also let me stretch out just about as far as I like. Again, though, I'm just subbing.
I guess that although neither of these are my most favorite genre (YES, etcetera), the challenges of having to fill a somewhat pre-sized hole in the music keep them interesting and even enticing to me. Luckily I'm subbing for great players and with great players, so the bar is high. It's still not the same as being a real part of something.
The first band mentioned above really is the first band I've gigged with that just left it all out there for the world to see/hear, and I would love to replicate that stage experience without the off-stage head-games. Maybe I've just missed my opportunity, maybe not.
Essentially, I think we're all suffering through the economics of Karoke. There is little live music compared to when I was young, but Karoke is everywhere. Plenty of bands in my neck of the woods, but even the good ones end up playing for free just to play. Heck, I play for free just to play! Adding insult to injury, a live local band typically can't duplicate the latest electronic pop hit, so we're anachronisms gone cold. I don't see it getting any better until the entertainment industry as a whole implodes and reinvents itself.
Wow, do I sound negative or what?!
On a lighter note, Blues At The Crossroads is this weekend (Terre Haute, Indiana), and I'm taking pictures of Dicky James and The Blue Flames Saturday afternoon at 1:30pm instead of playing..
John