Yeah, those retrievers are a must!
Re: soundpost location - I generally start with the soundpost's center about 1 to 1-1/4 below the center of the bridge's treble foot, and adjust from there. (imagine an X on the top of the soundpost, and an X on the bottom of the bridge foot as center points)
The ideal location depends very much on the individual instrument. Some basses it makes a huge difference, others less, but from a structural standpoint, probably less than a square inch of real estate is the adjustment zone. The fit of the post is as important as location... not too tight, not too loose either. As noted above, it should topple easily if string tension is relieved. I've had to push them out before... found them glued in, even nailed in. =)
I'll write a longer post on fitting a bridge and soundpost sometime to go with the pictures... What you need doesn't sound like a big job for any competent shop. If you were closer I'd fix you up in an hour or so... Hit my email contact anytime. Good luck!