eBay - gotta love the place!
You are in a tough spot. Any serious bidder knows your top bid now and could slip in and bid a dollar less just out of meanness (some people are just that way . . .). That or hopefully out bid you by a dollar. I imagine that your top bid was closer to $4,000 than it is now (I quit paying attention). You might want to eat your pride and play Murphy's law, as you are not in a good position here. I have been on eBay for a very long time. It is the black market of the world, and some not nice people hang there. I am a firm believer in a deal is a deal. Even on eBay, my bid is my word. However, in your circumstances, I would not hold it against you if you retracted your bid.