Author Topic: Need some advice (Read 750 times)

olieoliver · « **Reply #45 on:** June 28, 2006, 07:21:28 AM »

I don't know Keavin, has anybody ever seen, Play Misty For Me, or Fatal Attraction!
One night of false heaven is not worth months of real hell!

2400wattman · « **Reply #46 on:** June 28, 2006, 08:10:22 AM »

Amen to that!

olieoliver · « **Reply #47 on:** June 28, 2006, 08:48:11 AM »

oops

(Message edited by olieoliver on June 28, 2006)

olieoliver · « **Reply #48 on:** June 28, 2006, 08:48:27 AM »

Hey, Adam I don't know how close knit the LA music scene is but on a long shot, you don't happen to know this cat do you
http://www.davidallenbaker.com/
We played in our first band together in the 70's.

flaxattack · « **Reply #49 on:** June 28, 2006, 09:32:11 AM »

greg
i'm 54 and and just about to spend my 1st anniversary with my partner annie.Never lived with anyone, never let anyone get close enough for many numerous f'd up reasons, i pretty much resigned myself that i was going to spend my life without someone to come home to if you know what i mean. we knew each other one and off for about 8 yrs and she lived 150 miles away.
seemed that everytime i was getting ready to move- we found each other. sweet,easy going, caring you name it. when i was getting ready to move here to ct, i had been unable to find her and let her know where i was going,she was living in md. low and behold, 3 days before the move, i get an email- hey remember me... how did you find me? i asked- simple she said, i did a google for your name and yes belive it, its true, she found my name here at the alembic website and all these postings...
we got together - she came up here a couple of times, we talked about moving in together- this from a convinced i am going to be a bachelor guy
and i was real hesitant- so fast- why now?- well i had to go to vegas/alembic last august and asked her to stay and tend the critters. when i came back she was moved in. at first i was ticked, but when she said- look i love you, i made a mistake and if this doesnt work out- just say the word and i will leave no questions asked-
there was no pressure and i put my cards on the table. its not perfect- but going through some s--t lately has made me realize how blessed i am.
your case is different and i realize you would like to be with someone- make it for the right reasons.
today i am happy knowing i have a special person, i am an unofficial step dad-and i got a great dog out it....and knowing that someone cares and listens and helps me keep grounded.
your only 38-good things happen when you least expect it and someone once told me- when you are not looking for it- it will come....
hang in there brother alembician... something's not quite ringing true here. women who are hot to trot to get married are usually in love with the idea and not the man. you might wnat to move on and you might just want to sit down and talk to her. IF you think this is worth pursuing.....
i hope this helped you
jeff

glocke · « **Reply #50 on:** June 28, 2006, 12:46:45 PM »

wow...50 replies...thanks guys, there was some really good advice given to me...

I pretty much just told her that since her time line for how she would like things to progress is different than mine, that maybe we should just take a step back....which basically means take a break from each other for a week or so....She seemed agreeable to that, but also mentioned that I was overreacting to what she had been saying....which I was not..She clearly was asking to move in sooner rather than later, and than even had the nerve to say if that won't happen, than she wants some type of deadline to get engaged by (such as august)....ugh....

I figure if its something that is genuine, than things will not have changed much after taking time off....if it is something that is not genuine, than she will move onto some other guy and start working him....In any case, Im really not looking to have someone move in after 3 months....good grief....

Flax....your story is similar to mine...I havent let someone get that close to me for several f'd reasons of my own....Partly is I am somwwhat resistant to the idea of getting tied down, part of it is also how I see how relationships/marriages have ended up for some of my relatives/peers...

spliffy · « **Reply #51 on:** June 28, 2006, 01:29:31 PM »

cold showers for Glocke.... : )
Seriously though you sound like you have the situation under control- good for you.
Keep us posted.

Al

flaxattack · « **Reply #52 on:** June 28, 2006, 02:56:51 PM »

similar reason amongst many others here glocke
as brent said in blow away from dozin at the knick
you gotta open up your heart and let love in....
ps- best blow away ever imho