I hear ya , Joey. Believe you me, don't get me started because I don't wanna go there, LOL!
I can tell you I am ashamed to admit I have avoided almost all things WTC since 9/11. I didn't go back during the rescue/recovery when I could have, but I was consulted for various infrastructure issues. I have avoided all the funerals/wakes/rememberences/ceremonies, despite the appearance that I'm disrespectful, because I simply couldn't handle it emotionally.
As a construction manager, electrical engineer, and electrical code official for the Port Authority of NY/NJ, For 8 years I was intimately involved with a $100mil+ Electrical Upgrade at the WTC, The $40mil Security System (instigated by the '93 terror attack), plus I also did blast restoration ater the '93 bombing. I spent 12-16hr days, seven days a week for months on end at that place doing my job. That place and all the stress, aggravation, and time I put in took a serious toll on me and my personal life. There were days where I'd be driving in (to and from work in the dark, of course), and I'd see the WTC lit up from the Jersey side and would hope it would just disappear. I never, ever thought that would really happen but I feel sick to my stomach even today that I could ever have thought that way.
A lot of good people lost their lives (both in '93 and '01), but I survived. Why I was spared when others weren't will haunt me for the rest of my days. When that place went down, a big part of me and who I am went down with it.
I have been asked to return to my duties at the WTC for the rebuilding of the Freedom Tower, but I have yet to accept the offer. I've been at a lower-profile terrorist target (EWR Airport...Al Qaeda, et al, seems to have an affinity for Port Authority targets) in NJ and have mixed feelings toward returning. Yes, a big part of me wants to do my share just to show those Islamic fundamentalist bastards that we will perservere no matter what, but another part of me is counting my blessings thinking the third time may be a charm.